Still imagining no constraints: no work, family or other limitations.

In your ideal week, how much variety would you want to feel most energized?

Now, people. Still envisioning your preferred state.

You’ve got 12 free hours per day. Ideally, how would you like to spend them? Choose from your natural preference.

How much does each of these matter in your life right now?

Now, life as it actually is.

Which describes your schedule these days?

How many days a week do you have to be up at a set time?

On a typical working day, when do you fall asleep and wake up?

A third down. Keep going.

On a day off, with nowhere to be, when do you fall asleep and wake, and do you use an alarm?

How easy is it to get up in the morning?

Tap a rung in each column. The tilt between them is the point.

Even when you can sleep in, do you often struggle to fall or stay asleep?

Now, your sensory stimulation in life as it is.

In a typical recent week, how much variety did you actually have?

Halfway. You’re quick.

Is the amount of change in your life mostly your choice, or mostly out of your hands?

Now, in terms of your interactions with people.

Given work and life as they are now, how do those 12 hours actually get distributed?

In general, without judgement, how much do you want to be around other people?

How much does being around others leave you actually feeling anxious or on edge?

How true is this: fear of being judged or embarrassed makes me hold back from people or activities.

One more look at that triangle.

If that worry weren’t there at all, what would be your ideal split of time with people? Adjust if so.

Back to what matters. Two-thirds through.

Looking at how you rated some life areas that matter the most such as Family, Romantic relationship(s), Raising children, how much reflects what actually matters to you, versus what you feel is expected of you?

So, let’s try those once more, setting aside what anyone else wants for you, how much would each matter to you genuinely?

Over the past month, how often did your actions day-to-day actually reflect what you value here?

Over the past month, as it relates to the areas that matter most to me…

How much did outside circumstances, such as lack of time or money, work or caregiving responsibilities, keep you from what matters?

Almost there.

Your body seems to want sleep around 11:00 PM, but you actually go to sleep at 11:15 PM on working days. How long roughly has that been true?

Last one.

If those gaps closed, what would feel different? (pick up to 3)